How I Honour My Mom in the Smallest Ways 💛

Grief doesn’t come with a handbook, especially during the holidays.But I’ve found small, meaningful ways to keep her close — ways that feel like continuing a conversation we never finished.

✨ 1. I sit with her memory during my 20 minutes of light

I feel closest to her in stillness. When the red light glows around me, and the world becomes quiet, I talk to her. I tell her what’s happening in my life. I feel her pride. I hear her voice reminding me to take care of myself. It’s our time.

✨ 2. I keep the traditions she loved

Her way of fussing over small details and

my dad. These things keep her woven into December, not just as a memory — but as a presence.

✨ 3. I allow myself to feel everything

The grief, the joy, the heaviness, the love — all of it. Honoring her means honoring the emotions that come with missing her. She wouldn’t want me to numb. She’d want me to live fully, even through the ache.

✨ 4. I share her with others

Telling stories.Laughing about her quirks. Keeping her spirit alive in the people who knew her — and even those who didn’t.

Grief doesn’t ask to be solved. It asks to be witnessed.

As this season unfolds, I’m learning that honouring my mom isn’t about finding the right way to grieve — it’s about staying connected to her in the ways that feel true to my heart. In stillness. In tradition. In laughter. In tears. In light.

Some days that looks like sitting quietly in the glow, talking to her like I always have. Some days it looks like keeping her rituals alive. Some days it looks like letting the ache rise without trying to fix it.

And some days, it simply looks like remembering that love doesn’t disappear when someone leaves — it changes form.

She may not be here the way she once was, but she is still with me — guiding, nudging, reminding me to slow down, take care of myself, and live fully.

And maybe that’s the quiet gift grief gives us - a deeper relationship with love itself.

Love you Mom